you’ve heard it before: “that’s a red flag.” maybe it was a text that came too fast or too slow, a comment that felt off, or a moment that just didn’t sit right. but what if…it wasn’t a red flag at all?

in this episode of she’s probably talking to other guys, i take a step back and look at the labels we project onto people and situations, from dating to friendships to everyday life. maybe what looked shady was just a miscommunication, a difference in style, or a projection of past experiences. and maybe some so-called green flags deserve a closer look too.

expect playful debates, a little devil’s advocate energy, and gentle reminders that curiosity, context, and communication matter more than snap judgments. i share real examples that might make you rethink what’s actually a red flag and what’s not.

whether you’re single, in your healing era, or just love calling out patterns, this episode is for you. assumptions aren’t facts, but perspective is everything.