people love calling someone an “overnight success.” it sounds like a compliment, but it quietly erases the years of work no one saw. the late nights. the small wins. the quiet failures. the moments where quitting would have been easier.

in this episode of she’s probably talking to other guys, i’m pulling back the curtain on what success actually looks like. it’s rarely sudden. it’s built in private, refined in silence, and tested long before anyone decides to clap for it.

i talk about why the “overnight” narrative can feel dismissive, how it oversimplifies the messy reality of growth, and why slow progress does not mean you’re behind. highlight reels are edited. real work isn’t.

if you’re building something, chasing something, or wondering why it hasn’t “happened” yet, this is your reminder that momentum compounds. every visible win is standing on a pile of invisible ones.

success isn’t instant. it’s accumulated.