Why Everyone DOES NOT Deserve a Front Row Seat to Your Life

there’s this funny thing that happens as you grow older and suddenly realize…wait, do people actually think they’re entitled to a front row seat to my life? like every detail? every feeling? every plot twist?

in episode two of she’s probably talking to other guys, we got into boundaries — the real ones, the messy ones, and the ones you don’t even know you need until someone crosses them.

1. who actually gets a front row seat?

i talked about how friendships evolve, and how someone who once knew everything about you in high school doesn’t automatically get the same level of access now. life changes, you change, and honestly…so do your comfort levels.

it doesn’t mean you love people any less — it just means not everyone gets the whole show anymore. some people get balcony seating. some people get the lobby. and that’s perfectly fine.

2. oversharing & that weird “why did i tell them that?” feeling

we’ve all been there: you share something personal, and instantly regret it because the energy got…weird.

i opened up about moments where i felt judged for being honest. and that’s the thing — oversharing usually isn’t about being “too much.” it’s about sharing with the wrong person.

setting boundaries around what you share (and who you share it with) is self-protection, not secrecy.

3. family doesn’t equal full access

i touched on family dynamics too, because those relationships can be complicated in the best and worst ways. some people tell their parents everything. some people don’t.

you get to choose who earns that closeness.

4. social media isn’t the villain — but it’s not the whole story either

this is where i said something i’ve been holding onto for a while:

"Social media isn't the full picture. So I don't like the phrase about social media isn't real. Personally, because my social media is very real."
(00:15:30)

and that’s the truth — my content is real, but it’s still not every moment of my life. people confuse “real” with “complete,” and that’s where expectations get messy.

you can be authentic online without giving people your diary.

5. coworkers & the boundary olympics

work relationships are their own special category. you’ve got the nosy coworker, the well-meaning one, the oversharer…and the one who wants to know why you took a half day.

i made it clear: you don’t need to tell your boss you’re job hunting unless it’s actually relevant. privacy doesn’t make you disloyal — it makes you strategic.

6. the myth that time = access

one of the biggest misconceptions we unpacked was the idea that knowing someone for years means they automatically get to know everything about you now.

no. absolutely not.

relationships evolve. closeness fluctuates. and you’re allowed to shift what you share based on who someone is today, not who they were in 2012.

7. what a boundary actually is

i summed it up in the episode like this:

"Boundaries are”… “A healthy expression of what you will and won't allow."
(00:25:00)

it’s not about shutting people out — it’s about peacefully communicating the rules of your emotional home.

and honestly? it’s one of the biggest forms of self-respect.

final thoughts

not everyone deserves access to your entire life.
not everyone has earned that level of closeness.
and you are not rude, cold, or distant for protecting your peace.

boundaries are clarity.
boundaries are self-trust.
boundaries are grown-woman energy.

the right people will understand — and the rest were never supposed to be in the front row anyway.

key takeaways

• you don’t owe anyone full access to your life.

• oversharing isn’t a flaw.

• social media can be real and incomplete at the same time.

• family and coworkers don’t automatically get the deepest details.

• boundaries are simply a clear expression of what you will and won’t allow.